I don’t watch The Bachelor. I guess it’s mostly because the guys they ‘showcase’ are never my type. I like the geeky, sweet and shy ones like my husband. But they always have some pretty boy player with the muscles, and way too much willingness to kiss 25 girls on the first date.
I am a firm believer in 1-to-1 connections, and everything else is just ‘wanting to get some.’ Meaning, the guy MUST have one girl he can’t stop thinking about, and the rest are just nice to have.
Well, somehow my husband and I turned on the TV to last night’s The Bachelor Special “The Women Talk,” and could not turn away. They had all the girls talk about their experiences on the show. In the end, they had the guy come out and talk about his experience. By the way, my sister Monica Geller is totally in love with this Jake man.
If there’s one thing I learned on this Special is that people either have no idea what the word “love” means and what true love feels like, or they are all masochistic suckers who fell in love with some guy who’s been playing ALL of them… PUBLICLY…
A few comments:
- That girl Gia apparently thought she had him wrapped around her little finger, and he sent her home anyway. He said it was the right thing to do, which is a nice way to say “I was just not that into you”
- That girl Ally was 100% right: if what they felt for each other was real, THE SHOW WOULDN’T HAVE MATTERED. But he let her go, and moved on to another girl who would stay. What does that tell you about his level of commitment?
- Both Ally and Jake said the same “I thought he’d fly his plane to California and come after me” and “I thought she’d jump out of the limo at the last minute and choose me over her job,” respectively, but NONE of them did that. Why do we always wait for the other to bend first? Does that sound like true love to you?
- Again on Ally: when the host asked her if she would have chosen differently, notice how she made a pause. I was totally with her: she said she would choose love over job… but she knew this wasn’t the guy for her, and she couldn’t say “no, I still would have done the same,” instead she answered more broadly: she would choose love over work… in the future… if she had the choice… with someone else entirely… but not with him. She’s probably the smartest of the bunch.
- That girl, Elizabeth was it? Who said no kissing until she’s the one… I didn’t see her interview or her clip (that’s when we turned on the TV), but I thought that was a nice attempt at ethics on a dating show, where the guy IS expecting to get action from everyone. I think she had the right mindset, but in the totally wrong setting and totally out of character. She even admitted to not hold out like that in real life. Just not the best place to make that statement… and it was just not believable.
- That girl Roslin (sp?) was a total whack job. It is OBVIOUS she was having a relationship with the producer, and continuing to deny it does NOTHING for her image. People just hate a liar and they can smell it from a million miles away. What a big difference would it have made if she had just come on and said “Yes, your producer and I met and started a relationship on the show. It just happened, and we are both sorry about how the entire situation unraveled. We do apologize for putting the show and the other girls in the house in such an awkward position. We are still in a relationship, and I met his father, and we are very happy. I really wish all of you and Jake the best.” I should be in PR. My heart was with the host, he was LOSING it with her.
I guess that’s enough of my two cents about a show I don’t even watch. I’ll be watching the finale next week for sure, though!
ina